Sometimes, you might find yourself thinking a lot about one thing. This can be something you enjoy, like your favourite TV show or video game. But sometimes, it can be something you do not like or something that worries you.
What is typical?
Most of the time, when you think a lot about something, it’s something you enjoy. For example:
- Your favourite show, song, game, or hobby.
- Your favourite artists.
- A new sport you’re learning.
These kinds of thoughts are okay. They usually do not last long and do not get in the way of your daily life. Sometimes, you might also think about strange things, like throwing your phone out of a moving car. These thoughts come and go.
When should I be concerned?
If you cannot stop thinking about things that worry you, it might be a problem. These thoughts can make you upset or mess with school, activities, or time with friends.
Examples of problem thoughts:
- Counting to a specific number or counting objects
- Saying words repeatedly in your head
- Making and checking mental lists
- Thinking a lot about past interactions to make sure you did not upset anyone
- Worrying often about bad things happening.
- Worrying about germs or dirt
- Reassuring yourself repeatedly that nothing bad will happen
- Asking others about your worries repeatedly.
Other signs:
- Having thoughts about dirt, germs, or chemicals that you cannot stop
- Worrying a lot or feeling disgusted by sweat, saliva, vomit, or urine
- Worrying about causing something bad (like a car accident)
- Worrying about harming others
- Feeling upset when things are not arranged a certain way
- Worrying a lot about small mistakes
- Having unwanted thoughts about right and wrong
- Having unwanted thoughts about being punished
- Having unwanted sexual thoughts or images
- Having unwanted religious thoughts or images
- Having other unwanted thoughts, images, or urges
- Having unwanted thoughts for more than an hour a day
- Avoiding things, places, or people because of unwanted thoughts
- Trying to stop unwanted thoughts
- Having trouble getting rid of things you do not need
What can I do if I struggle?
It can be hard to deal with unwanted thoughts. Here are a few things to try:
- Ask for help: Talk to a parent, family member, or another trusted adult.
- Thoughts are not facts: Just because you think something doesn’t make it true.
- Everyone has weird thoughts: It’s okay to have strange thoughts sometimes.
- Let thoughts go: Imagine your thoughts are like trains passing by. Watch them go by without getting on board.
- Avoid seeking reassurance: Asking for reassurance can make worries worse over time.
What kind of professional support can I seek out?
It’s okay to feel embarrassed if you’re struggling with obsessive thoughts. Help is available.
Doctors or nurses can help if you are concerned about your obsessive thoughts. They can refer you to other specialists, including mental health professionals, which can also be helpful.
Where to find more information
If you need additional help or information, talk to a trusted adult (like a caregiver, teacher or mentor), a counsellor, or a health professional. Reach out, stay connected, and ask for help. Remember that effective treatments for all mental health problems are available and you may need to talk to a number of different people before you get the help that you need.